“ I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with the pain. ”

What we focus on grows. Everywhere one looks in our culture, through Hollywood, violence, crime and pornography are glamorized: on television, in cinemas, on DVDs, the internet, and within computer games. With these themes on display continuously, it is little wonder that boys grow up wanting to emulate their glamorous and violent heroes.

Without the active support of conscious adult men, boys are more likely to stumble towards adulthood like the blind leading the blind. Many do not make it (they die), or end up on the streets, addicted and caught in the revolving doors of prisons and psychiatric hospitals (a wasted life).

Men are the least able to express themselves verbally. Therefore one solution is to teach men and boys how to express aggression nonverbally and safely. Useful examples of how violence is used are the following illustrations by the Duluth Domestic Abuse Intervention Project (Manhood by Steve Biddulph):

Most projects that involve men accused of domestic violence tend to fail. These projects come about with the intervention of the courts, not due to free will. Whilst many men will go through the motions of getting treatment for their anger issues, many do so in order to maintain access to their partners and families. However, after a period, most tend to go back to acting violently, because the root cause of their anger issues have not been dealt with.

Taming the tiger of violence has to involve the clients" active free will, a supportive male community to offer mentorship on how to handle explosive emotions, and the daily tools of spiritual wellbeing.

We also promote healthy organic eating because the diet we eat affects our moods

• In school, around 90% of children with behaviour problems are boys and 80% of children with learning problems are also boys (Steve Biddulph).
• Over 90% of convicted acts of violence will be carried out by men aged 15-35 (Steve Biddulph).
• 70% of the victims of violence are also men (Steve Biddulph).
• Three out of 5 gay, bisexual and transgender men have experienced being beaten up, 4 out of 5 have been bullied in school, and 9 out of 10 have been verbally abused at some point (The Lesbian and Gay Foundation,
  www.lgf.org.uk).
• According to the U.K. government homicide statistics in 1998, at least 2 women are killed each week due to domestic violence.
• “The healthy man does not torture others — generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers” Carl Jung.